This is one of the greatest lessons that I value most, there are differences between needs, wants, and desires.
I focus on my needs first, because if my basic needs are not met first, I can now I focus on what I want? Our basic needs are food, shelter, and clothing, this keeps us healthy so that we thrive not keep trying to survive. Once we have figured out how to take care of our needs then this gives a sense of ease. We can think, plan, and properly explore our options, our wants.
This is not always easy because everyone's circumstance are not the same, but the core truth remains that our needs must first be met.
In my opinion, the reason why I experienced being poor or poverty was because I spent most of my time being a consumer, this meant that I once spent most of my time and money trying to get what I wanted instead of first securing my needs.
We all need to establish a firm foundation, usually having good parents due to discipline handles this.
I don't need or desire attention but I want or desire it sometimes. Needs are usually life or death situations, wants are usually things we like, but we will not feel unsatisfied with life if we do not have everything that we want. Desires tend to show us that deep down inside we still feel unfulfilled.
At this point of inner growth, as time went on I've come to realize that I do not need most of the things that I was carrying, mental, material, and emotional baggage. I do not need recognition from friends and family members anymore, and I do not need to be Liked and accepted, I do not need expensive things to feel secure and approved anymore.
I want material things too but most of the things I have are collecting dust, this is something that we all deny. I can blame the TV commercials, having status, fitting in, and worse Black Friday which in my opinion is another scam. That day plays on human emotions, those unfulfilled desires, having people going crazy over materialism.
Corporations know that the average human feels empty, why not use Black Friday, etc.
This is where desires come into play. Besides sexual desire which is something more complex, desires cause more pain and suffering. Some may say that desire is not any different than needs or wants, but I disagree because desires are not natural. Why would I desire to be my best, that is a natural feeling, I want to express my uniqueness to the world.
If I desire success then that is saying don't feel important now, I will never feel successful , or that success is out of reach, or success means I am now important and somebody.
Desires cause illusions and delusional perceptions.
It is unbalanced to desire food, if food is a desire then that is simply gluttony, a lust for food. A person with a mental or emotional disorder is susceptible to greed and gluttony.
Some may say that they have a desire for a house, but that is not a desire because we need shelter, clothing, sleep, and food. We don't even desire money, we just want or need what it has access to. The desire for money causes the grind and chase mentality we know how far that goes..
Desires arise when we have an empty hole that cannot be filled.
This is why desires can be self-destructive, we can have it all and still keep looking for more, even if we do not know why. So many spend so much of their time and money, overworking and over sacrificing themselves because they are stuck in desires. They may assume that they are trying to reach a goal but all along distracted by greed, lust or some kind of recognition.
Emotions such as shame, guilt, regrets, and grief, are the underlying causes of desires. For example, I may blame others or just have a hard time feeling good enough, now I have a desire to prove for approval and even desired validation. I even once desired acknowledgment. This can turn a person into a narcissist or any other mental or emotional disorder.
I spent years looking inwards at my intentions and agendas, is my pain, fear or love running my goals dreams, and aspirations? This type of inner analysis helped me see more clearly. We can all get to know ourselves better on an intimate level, then express that to the wrold.
I believe that jobs are for the lazy, the unlazy wants to have full responsibility for their own lives. The rich or wealthy minded individuals think like a leader instead of waiting for someone else's APPROVAL. They think of being the boss, so they naturally would have their needs met because they live to explore other things even if it is petty desires.
Many just get a job then conform to it as if their job is them.
When I was poor meaning poor-minded, I spent my time thinking about money, and how to get it, but no matter how much I made I spent it just as quickly. I had to make sure that I got what I wanted, this kept my pocket empty because I was not investing my energy into my needs or anything else meaningful. Money is just currency, a flowing of energy, and boy my energy once stayed busy chasing money.
Chasing paper money was me telling myself on a Subconscious level that I could never have infinite abundance, this is why my created reality was such a trap, it was my belief about myself and what I could achieve, that was my true money trap.
Chasing Anything in life is pushing it away even further.
So I asked myself what am I doing with my own time and energy, making someone else richer by ignoring my personal needs? I must focus on what I am (currently) doing with my currency which is my time and energy. It starts in our mind, our thinking. If we change how we use our energy then we can attract currency in an entirely different way, not based on what we were taught in school.
So let us all take time to look in the mirror, and remind ourselves that our needs must be met, and it was never about having more to show off or to fill in the void.
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