What is The Difference Between Fantasy and Reality

One of the most important lessons that I have learned is, fantasy and reality are not the same. As human beings maturing on planet earth, we are still learning about who we are supposed to be. When we have not developed a sense of self-awareness, and when we have trouble understanding ourselves, it is hard to determine what we want, need, or desire. Fantasies are usually driven by lust, and many desires are driven by feeling empty and incomplete, feeling unfulfilled. What motivates him to buy that car? Lustful thoughts can create superficial ideas. If he chooses the appearance of the car to pick up women, if it is for any external validation, like to impress others, then this is all fantasy. I am not saying do not buy what you find attractive, just make sure it's what makes you feel good, it may be part of your style. Meanwhile, the car is mainly used for transportation, the reality. This person may run into many problems with women, he hasn't realized that using flash to get women is the reason why he attracts those types of women. The reality is, if he wants a woman to marry then he must use the car for transportation. The mature woman will notice him because his vibes changed to match hers, the woman that are about flashy may pay him no mind. Fantasies keep you chasing while reality is acceptance, staying present. When inside issues have been ignored, (Reality), we compensate externally with desires, which leads to all these fantasies. If a person feels ashamed, guilty, grieving, lonely, greedy, jealous, envious, or incomplete, they can create false realities to escape, instead of being responsible for themselves by becoming a better person. I needed to feel beautiful so I chased many women, but I now FEEL beautiful, now women naturally come to me, mainly good ones because I am no longer desperate. Having a bunch of women made me feel cool but the reality was my relationships couldn't mature, because I was living a fantasy. When I wasn't aware of hidden guilt, I found myself people-pleasing, I tried to save others so I can look or feel like a good person, to feel better inside, I always tried to fix others' mistakes. I thought if I get it right, people would see me as good. That old fantasy of feeling good from other's validation was not a pleasant one. Reality hit me, I saw how I needed to heal from my past, the world I could be living in right now can be peaceful. I can now be responsible for myself, and be accountable without the drama. I must be honest with myself, take responsibility, a little self discipline, no skipping steps, so that I could eventually experience a better reality. Some women or men would say my standards are high, when it is too high, that is even a fantasy. No one is perfect, and no relationship is perfect, our flaws should complement or compensate for one another. Ego-driven desires get in the way that causes separation. I have seen the list, reading between the lines people are saying, to be with me, he or she needs to be perfect. The desire to get rich, that's is a fantasy. Humanity will do many things even extreme to get rich. Ask yourself, why do you want what I think you want? We should be saying I want to live a fruitful meaningful life, filled with abundance. This way we experience happiness, joy, compassion, great friends, and family support, and contribute something useful to the world while exploring and experiencing our heart's passion. The money will come naturally without chasing it. When we feel disconnected from the universe which is still feeling disconnected from ourselves, discontent, some begin to chase a fantasy, if I keep showing someone how much I love them, they will want me. If I prove this to my boss he will do this. Many chase to receive respect, those who have self-respect never have to chase after it. Chasing means that I feel separated from abundance, feeling I can not have it, so we force by going out to get it. We are all magnets. We think if I have this, or experience that, I will finally be happy. Have you ever heard someone say, I've outgrown many things, this is because most of what they have chased and lived were all fantasies, trying to live for the world. Trying to fit into the crowds and trends leads to fantasy. Many people in society are only together because of superficial ideas, as long as everything is flashy on the outside they stay together, but what goes on behind the closed doors of a fantasy lifestyle? Being a celebrity makes it challenging to live a genuine reality, they tend to live a fantasy life that was given to them. They have to impress millions of audiences, so image is more important than soul. The rich and famous have worst relationships than the average person. The ego, our humanity have trouble with accepting reality. If a famous person does something wrong we react surprised as if they are different from our usual neighbors. Comedians are only that funny because they make fun of the ego, how we are so flawed, and the problems we have that come with it. When we are real with ourselves we make mature real-life choices and decisions. The idea of power control, trying to change others for our benefit of what is best. Moving and manipulating others may be a busy fantasy to experience, always having to control things and being pushy on others. If they become aware of their pushy behavior, that person's fantasy will collapse, time to face their reality, time to grow up. Instead, use your imagination and creativity to produce your perfect reality by stepping outside of the box, fantasies can be a distraction from getting what you truly want. Fantasies can be dealt with after you get what you want because you now have self-control, and now you can understand why you want to experience it. If it is a fantasy then it usually needs to be experienced once. If you keep doing it, then it is a desire. It is only an addiction when it gets in the way of living a healthy lifestyle. So before you chase after your fantasies, try to figure out get what you really want in life, but your needs must first be met to achieve what you truly want. Now with less pressure, you can explore your fantasies.